Why I Am Making A List Of 100 Adventures.

If you are like me, you have those few things that you have always wanted to do. My list includes: driving across country, visiting every state, visiting every continent, and seeing the Northern Lights. The creation of this “bucket list” provides a concrete guide of what to do before you die. This has always been a morbid way of looking at it. Rather than seeing a checklist before death. I prefer to look at it as a list of things that will remind you how to live.

This past weekend I was Stage Managing Tedx Asbury Park. This conference is a meeting of some interesting thought leaders all centered around a particular theme. This year’s theme was passion. Here I met a man named Sebastian Terry who talked about his website: 100things.com.au . The whole premise of his website is to provide a platform for people to create and manage their own lists.

What makes the site special is the community. I spent a good portion of the day sifting through the site and the community is strong. The site offers a way for people to experience their list items together providing encouragement and sometimes even funds to help. Lists includes Jacky from Hong Kong who wants to go to a nude beach, Roberto from Berlin who wants to get arrested and, now, The Boy with the Bear who wants to take swing classes. You can become friends with each other and become part of each other’s adventures in a way that only the internet can allow.

Meeting Sebastian ignited a fire, so I decided to start my own. Here are the 3 reasons why I made my adventure list:

1. It Helps Me Best Indecision.


Deciding what to do sucks. I don’t want to decide which restaurant to go to or what me and my friends are going to do this weekend. It’s a lot of pressure, especially when you need to decide on the spot. What if I had a document that I filled with a series of things I want to do?

Having it already predetermined allows me to have something to fall back on in times where your mind is cloudy or the pressure is on. I can pair this with a technique that is similar to how I described besting boredom previously, and create a powerful tool. So I can say, “When I can’t decide what I want to do one night, I will pull out my 100 Things and do one the next one available to me.” This allows me to have a clear structure in place. Tools like this help make adventuring easy.

2. It Reminds Me That I Have Dreams.


The Everyday and the Mundane is distracting. That is just what life is. I always get caught in a string of unintentional tasks that need to get completed. The more the days and weeks and months go on, the easier and easier it is to forget about the things that I want. In their place I accidentally ended up living a quarter of my year for someone else. Having a list of things you want to do helps to remind you of what you want.

The list are goals. So if I review it periodically I have the ability to realign my perspective. This can help remind me I do have dreams and can live a life working toward them.

3. I Get To Track Your Progress and Gamify


Who doesn’t like to see progress? Part of the reason I used to get caught up in different video games and gaming apps is because of the constant witnessing my progress. By listing out my 100 Things I can work toward them and watch me move forward one thing at a time. I like what Steve Kamb at Nerd Fitness does. He helps to Gamify his list(quests) by assigning each experience points and watching your character leveling up.

Progression is a motivator for me. Momentum is huge and the more I see myself completing different tasks, the more I ask myself, “Okay, what’s next?” Recently I went on an amazing trip to Utah with one of my best friends. Before we even left we were loving it so much that we were trying to decide where to go next. Progress and experience is addicting. I will use my list to tap into that.

So these are why I plan to use my list to help me adventure even more. I intend to fill the list up with a series of one day, weekend and even lifelong adventures for me to complete. It may take me a little while to get to 100, but even while I compile my list I will start to check off certain things. Sooner than later I hope to complete everything on my list and then make another one. It’s fun that life works that way.

So I challenge you to make make a list. Is 100 too much? No problem. Write down 10 things you have always wanted to do and start working towards doing them. Add more as you can. Nothing is to short or too small. And if you need help, there is always a community out there looking to help at 100things.com.au .

Do you have a list of things you wish to accomplish? How far along are you into it. I would love to hear from you in the comment section below and if you like what you are reading I encourage you to follow me. I will be posting every Monday and the next post will be on 6/4. So thank you for your time! Go find an adventure today!

More soon.

John Latona Jr., The Boy with the Bear.

How Learning To Speak My Love Languages Changed Me.

Do you love yourself correctly? I used to question if I loved myself at all. I would feel overwhelmed and lonely and would lack energy. All qualities I wasn’t fond of. I thought this all was a symptom of lack of love for myself.

One of the few things that would make me feel good would be hiking. I would go into the woods by myself and just walk for hours. Afterwards I would have this upswing of energy that would sustain me for a while. Then learned about daily affirmations and I fell in love with them.

In his blog, Maximizing You Potential, Jack Canfield writes,” Daily affirmations are simple, positive statements declaring specific goals in their completed states.”

By repeating 10 or so positive statements about myself daily I was able to change my outlook on life. I felt better. Taking this time alone with myself to repeat these affirmations would remind me what I wanted and how I was going to get there.

Then I read Gary Chapman’s, The Five Love Languages. In the book he describes the five different ways that people tend to show love: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Quality Time, Gifting Giving, and Physical Touch. I took his online quiz to find mine: #1 Words of Affirmations, #2 Quality Time.

I realized, until then, I was never speaking to myself in the correct language. My love for affirmations explained why I felt great when I started speaking positively to myself. And my love for quality time explains why a hike alone worked wonders for me. So I committed to speak to myself in my two primary love languages.

So I continued to practice daily affirmations. Slowly I committed to giving myself more time off from work and additional time to be with myself. And as I did, I noticed improvements I didn’t expected.

1. Improved Energy and Sleep Cycle.


I was able to get through the day so much easier. Normally I would start to crash in the mid afternoon and not be able to recover. I would get home and stay up until 2am and wake up for work miserably tired. The more I practiced my love languages the more I was able to sleep better at night. This created energy that I use to fuel a series of adventures that I had neglected over the years. My excuse was always, I am too tired. By speaking to myself with affirmations and quality time I was able to remove that excuse from my library and motivate me to go adventuring.

2. Improved Discipline


This energy has allowed me to be more productive. I had energy to start changing the  habits I was never overly fond of. I took the “fact” that I was undisciplined and lacked willpower and flipped it on its head. One habit at a time I started to change the narrative of my own life. I disciplined myself to practice affirmations, then to build in quality time, then to work out, then to eat better, then to adventure weekly. The more I committed to changing for the better, the easier altering each subsequent habit. This productivity and discipline has allowed me to experience progress in many of my goals.

3. Improved Confidence.


Confidence is important. I believe that you are never truly more yourself than when you are confident. My confidence is directly related to my self worth. People who are truly confident have such an unwavering belief in their system. It’s inspiring. By practicing my love languages I began to feel a shift toward this. I smiled more, became naturally more extroverted, and it became even easier to try new adventures. By having faith in who I am, The Resistance has gotten weaker. I smile more, my head is high and my shoulders are back. I am more open with people and myself than ever before.

4. Improved Happiness.


I am happier. I was always relatively happy before, but since I started treating myself correctly the average day is better. The happiness informs my responses to the situations around me. I react more positively which keeps my mind more open to out of the box solutions. I am able to bring life to my life simply because the happiness is internal. It is completely self created and self earned. So I believe it is here to stay.

Few things feel better than being loved. No one wants to suffer on their adventure. Everyone wants to be happy: before, during and after. By practicing my primary love languages on myself I have brought more happiness to my adventures. So I challenge you to find out which love languages you prefer and practice them on yourself. If you need references on how to love yourself in your own language look to these posts:

By practicing my love languages I have started on a new adventure. The adventure to love myself. Which might just be the most important adventure of them all.

So what are your primary love languages? In what ways can you improve the how you love yourself in the future? I would love to hear from you in the comment section below and if you like what you are reading I encourage you to follow me. I’ve decided to switch to a once a week post schedule and next post will be on Monday 5/28. I have decided that I want to be consistent and with my other career, scaling back will allow me to be reliable. So thank you for your time! Go love yourself and find an adventure today!

More soon.

John Latona Jr., The Boy with the Bear.

Controlling The Resistance: My 5 Steps.

Last week I talked about The Resistance. I went into the most basic things you need to do to outsmart him.  But all I gave you was a list of things that are easier said than done. Though The Resistance is easy to beat in theory. The practice is much more difficult.

Back in 2014 I was in college for the second time. I was in the process of trying to decide what I wanted to do. I was in self imposed exile from most of my friends since everyone else seemed to have everything figured out.

Instead of working on myself, I distracted myself with alcohol, sports and new friends. These new friends were less than good influences. I don’t remember after a party waking up in the hospital, stitches in my ear and none of my new friends around. That is when I new something had to change.So I decided to take control and this is how I did it:

1. Acknowledge The Resistance.  

The Resistance is your enemy. You must not let him take control. But you must remember that he is part of you too. Change your tactic and approach him with gratitude and thank him for what he is trying to do for you.

In her book, Big Magic, Elizabeth Gilbert  tells her fear, that he can come for the ride, but he can never, ever drive. Set the ground rules and tell him (and yourself) that you are not going to listen. You are in control.

You’ll be surprised how much better you’ll feel.

2. Figure Out What It Wants You To Avoid.

Once you tell The Resistance what the rules are, you need to reflect on what he was saying. What he tells you not to do, is very often what you need to do.Take time.

Dedicated time, and see what he wants you to not do. And come up with a plan to make that exact thing happen. The Resistance wants to limit your dream with thoughts of self doubt and images of failure.  But those are just illusions.

3. Implement That Plan.

Start. Excuse me while I become a broken record. Start. Start. Start. This is the absolute best way to take control of The Resistance. By starting you limit his capabilities drastically.

Start small. One day at a time, everyday. Implement a simple change and as your confidence grows let the steps  grow in size with it. Start building the habit. That is how you start to take control.

4. Power Through The Bad Days

Continuing can be just as hard. Sometimes harder. You will have bad days. Days where you fall in the mud or you get the flu. On those days you will find solace in doing the very things you are trying to change. In the things that used to make you comfortable.

That. Is. Ok. For one day. Pick up where you left off the next day. Don’t stress yourself by trying to catch up. Just get back to your daily goal and power through everyday onward.  Eventually you’ll find that your day is not complete until you do that thing. It is now part of you. Congratulations.

5. Shun Perfection and Finish It.

And finally there will come a time to finish. Finishing is putting your work in public. Sending the bird out of its nest to watch it to change the world. It might be loved. It might Be hated. You can’t control that. You can only control creating. So finish and create again.

You may struggle with this and see all the flaws in your work. Nothing is perfect. Every piece of art, every business venture or new program is imperfect. That is what makes creation beautiful. The illusion of perfect, formed by mistakes. Seek excellence and deliver to the world. And remember, finishing means, this one time, you overcame The Resistance.

And that’s it. That’s the more comprehensive way I like to take down The Resistance. It’s never easy to implement these steps. But I did it. So can you. And once you do, you get to do something fun. You get to ask yourself, what’s next?

How do you feel about these five steps? Am I crazy or did you find something else that works better? I would love to hear from you in the comment section below and if you like what you are reading I encourage you to follow me. I will be posting 2-3 times a weeks and next post will be on Wednesday  5/23 . So thank you for your time! Go find adventure today!

More soon.
John Latona Jr., The Boy with the Bear.

An Introduction To The Resistance And The Basic Ways To Best It.

Today we talk about the dark side of the force. Whether you call it Fear, The Lizard Brain or The Resistance it has one goal, to keep you from doing anything new. In the past I have discussed all the positive ways I have lived my life adventuring every day. However, today we talk a bit about all the fear and doubts that precede the goals.
For years I grappled with the resistance without even knowing what it was. Anytime I went to try something new I was assaulted by an anxiety that I could not control. Regardless of if I was traveling, going to a job interview, starting a new job, joining a new hobby group, he was there. He was like my shadow, always attached to me, and the closer I got to any light the darker he would get.
Currently, he is still here. He never does truly go away. However, with a lot of practice I have learned how to tame him more frequently. With the help of Steven Pressfield I was able to give a name to the enemy and analyze his form. So I’m going to talk about what The Resistance is and what the most basic thing you need to do to combat it.

What is the Resistance?

“Fear is good. Like self-doubt, fear is an indicator. Fear tells us what we have to do. Remember our rule of thumb: The more scared we are of a work or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it.  Resistance is experienced as fear…” Steven Pressfield, The War of Art.
The Resistance is the fear that you experience when you think about writing your book. The Resistance is the urge to eat the cake when you are cutting sugar. The resistance is the mental exhaustion you feel before you go for a run. The Resistance is invisible, insidious, internal and infallible. He hates change. He wants to keep you on the couch, keep you filing papers, keep you comfortable, yet miserable. He is the voice in your head telling you to ignore the call to action.
He is the under-evolved lizard-brain. It’s primitive programming that still sees conformity as the safest tribal response to social stimuli. It says it is easier to agree than to fight the status quo. It is the complacency that gyms rely on when they oversell memberships knowing 80% of the people who sign up won’t come.
The Resistance is the enemy of any adventure you want to experience, because it fears the unknown. Its primary objective is to keep you exactly where it is comfortable, even if it’s not what’s best for you.

How to fight it?

Start- I find that The Resistance is strongest before you start. Taking the first steps tends to be the hardest part. But once you do each step gets slightly and slightly easier. I recently performed at an open mic. It was the first time I have ever done something like this before and I was resisting, intensely. I was tapping my leg on the ground and breathing deeply. All the while, my heart was pounding. Then I got up there.
You know what? As soon as I started it got easier. I was able to read without a hitch. It wasn’t perfect, but it was the right step. To Start.
Continue- Things are going to get tough. In the middle of the adventure there is going to come a point where the momentum dies and the temptation to drift will happen. This is especially common for people with a lot of ideas. I recently came up with an idea that I love for a podcast. I love podcasts and have been looking for an exciting topic that I can become passionate about.
This is just a distraction trying to prevent me from focusing on the goals I have set. The Resistance can even manifest itself in the image of something positive. The goal here, refocus yourself and continue;.
Finish-  I recently experienced a pull to quit when trying to run 9 miles for the first time. When I ran 8 miles the week before I did not have any problems. But for some reason this one was different. I got halfway and all of a sudden the various shadows came into the back of my mind. All of them trying to get me to stop. I could not focus and the whole time my mind was screaming to give in.
Needless to say I finished. When doubt fills you telling you that you can’t finish. Prove him wrong and do just that. Shipping will make the next time you meet The Resistance that much easier to combat and honestly, the sense of achievement alone is worth it.

“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles.” -Sun Tzu, The Art of War
The Resistance is the enemy. He feeds into your own fears trying to prevent you from achieving your new goals. You can combat him by Starting, Continuing and Finishing. By practicing these you are on your way to defeating him. There is still so much to talk on the topic of The Resistance and it is probably my favorite topic in all of Personal Development. Next week I will go a little deeper into to how to overcome The Resistance. But until then:
In what ways have your felt The Resistance? Have you defeated him before? I would love to hear from you in the comment section below and if you like what you are reading I encourage you to follow me. I will be posting 2-3 times a weeks and next post will be on  Monday 5/21. So thank you for your time! Go live your Day to Day Adventure.
More soon.
John Latona Jr., The Boy with the Bear.

The Simple Plan I Use To Fight Boredom

If you are like everybody in the world, you get bored. As I wrote this I realized I didn’t really know the definition of bored. It was one of those words that I just took for granted. I did a simple google search and this is what I got.

“Feeling weary because one is unoccupied or lacks interest in one’s current activity.”

Sounds right. I never had it so cleanly stated before. I always saw boredom as something that happens when you are not mentally stimulated, but lacking interest, to me, is a telling phrase. It simply states the facts of the situation. If you are bored, you don’t care about what you are doing. If I lack interest in something, I do everything in my power to get out of that situation. Stimulating my mind is too important to me. So how do you combat it?

I have come up with a plan for what to do when I am bored in common situations. Having a clearly thought out path allows you not have to think about what to do in response. In my post last week I talked about the Three Suggestions to Finding Day to Day Adventure. In that post I talked about prioritizing. By planning what your priorities are you can more easily react to situations that ask you to choose between them. In that same way, by having a plan for how to handle certain common boredom situations you can get into the habit of beating boredom.

There is one main structure I use to do this. I just select a situation that is common for me and then say, Whenever I am ________  and I feel bored I ________ instead. So for instance a few of mine are:

Whenever I am watching TV and I feel bored I go for a walk instead.

I recently implemented this one and it felt great. It was 9pm and I was watching Adventure Time (ironic title aside) and I realized I was bored. I was getting restless and rather than forcing myself through the tedium, I just got up, put on my shoes and went for a walk. It was a nice head space creator and it had the benefit of added physical fitness. Win-Win.


Whenever I am useless on my computer and feel bored I play with my cat for 15 minutes instead.

This one is great, because I do not make enough time for my cat as it is. This one adds the benefit of curbing his shenanigans. When he isn’t stimulated he starts knocking everything over and running around the apartment like a crazy cat. But by keeping him entertained, the apartment stays more together and I get the added quality time with my pet. It’s nice.


Whenever I am hungry and feel bored I drink a lot of water instead.

This one is dangerous for me. This is the situations where I go from executing my nutrition choices beautifully to shoveling down spoonfuls of peanut butter and chocolate chips in seconds. When I kept succumbing to the temptations to bored eat I just feel my body and will start to melt. My lizard brain screams out in joy and my conscious mind starts to spiral into disappointment with myself.  So I put this in place to start to curb some of these temptations. So far so good!


Whenever I am overly using my phone and I feel bored I start writing instead.

This writing doesn’t have to be good. It just needs to be started, because the idea of writing often begets more. Creativity eventually gets jump started and productivity happens. If I have time to twiddle on my phone, I have time to write a paragraph or two. That is the joy of the cloud. Creating habits like this also makes me feel less restless at night because I feel as though I got everything I wanted to get done, completed.


So those are just a few habits I have to try to counteract the day to day monotony. That being said, there is a difference  between relaxation and boredom. If you are doing nothing or watching tv or on your computer and you are feeling relaxed good for you. I decompress from time to time with Hulu and Netflix or YouTube just like anybody else. But when I am bored either undeniably or maybe just a little. I implement these few things, because I find these habits to be a better use of my time.

By replacing the unproductive boredom with something you enjoy and can provide benefit to a part of your life that is lacking you are practicing steps in prioritizing, creating headspace and giving your creativity an avenue to flow. More often than not, being bored stifles drive and creativity. By stimulating yourself you may find that you have more ideas and solutions for those nagging problems in your life start to show up.

Do you have a system in place that is similar? Or where can you replace boredom with something small you enjoy? I would love to hear from you in the comment section below and if you like what you are reading I encourage you to follow me. I will be posting 2-3 times a weeks and next post will be on  Friday 5/18. So thank you for your time! Go live your Day to Day Adventure. 

More soon.

John Latona Jr., The Boy with the Bear.

The 5 Things Mother’s Day Reminded Me About Starting

I love trying something new. But I love watching someone stretching their comfort zone even more. I love seeing someone go from a turtle shelled up to a laughing and glowing version of who they can be. Yesterday, as you may know, was Mother’s Day. My mom booked a hotel in Asbury Park, NJ. My sister and I met her for a day of fun and sun. Except it was raining. Quite hard.

Now my Mom is not always the best with spontaneity. She is much more comfortable doing the everyday and the mundane. Which is why yesterday surprised me. It was like she was in the movie, Yes Man. In this movie, Jim Carrey’s character agrees to say yes to everything. Obviously shenanigans and problems occur and he learns a lesson. And as I watched my mother experience things she never had before I was reminded of 5 things that I have been taking for granted about myself.


1. Saying Yes Is Not Easy

The first thing she did when we suggested that we go to Stumpy’s Hatchet House to throw little axes at the wall was say no. She puckered her lips and shook her head and refused to make eye contact. The more we mentioned it the more she resisted. Until she didn’t. Eventually, my mother said yes.

She was quiet on the ride to Stumpy’s and just stared at her phone. We pulled up and she was looking for excuses not to go in (conveniently I spilled tea in my sisters new car, so she focused on cleaning that up for a bit). As we walked in I saw her look of regret. I realized that she was terrified. That is when my pride swelled. Because I recognized that look. It is the same look I have every time I try something new. The fear of the yes. When you are asking, why the hell did I do this?

2. Saying Yes Isn’t Enough.

So there she is, staring at the hatchets in the box. She had that dear in headlights looks. We calmly urged her to throw and she did. She followed through with it. She said yes to going and then got throwing. It was definitely not easy for her. She doesn’t like things that can physically harm other people. So when my sister threw one at full strength, my mother’s eyes bulged wider than the Atlantic Ocean she wanted to sit by all day.

Once you say yes you need to do what you said yes to. As my mom stood there just staring I knew she was looking for an excuse to get out of it. To sit at the table and watch us throw instead. We didn’t let her and she started to thrive. She actually was better than both of us. As she began to throw more and more, she settled into it and the smile came out, then the excitement, then the pride that she did it. We bought her a tee shirt to commemorate the pride.

3. Once You Start, It’s Easier To Continue.

After we left the Hatchet House, we still had a lot of time in the day. So off we went to Yestercades. An arcade in Red Bank. Now I am a gamer, I can get my sister to play with me, but my mother is never the one to want to play. She would much rather be on her phone while the rest of us play. But she agreed. And I realized it is because once you stretch your comfort zone, it gets a little easier to do it again.

Just like when you stretch a muscle, the first time through the resistance is going to be strong. It is. There is no way around it. But the second and the third iteration through the same stretches are easier and you get deeper. At the end you have more range of motion than ever before. She enjoyed some pinball and some Galaxian and even a bit of Wii U. And I can not remember the last time I have heard such a pure laughter from her.

4. It’s Better With Friends.

Peer pressure can sometimes be a good thing. I love trying new things. I do them alone most of the time, because I told myself I won’t say no to something just because I can’t get someone to come with me. But honestly, it’s better with friends. I guarantee my mother would not have chosen to do either of the things we did yesterday, but she agreed to join us.

Friends push you to do things you never have before. And because you know and trust them it makes it easier to say yes. This quality form of peer pressure tends to help you strive for better results, either competitively or just to make them proud. And honestly, it is just more fun. Having that small amount of normalcy makes the unknown seem a fraction less daunting than it was before. And you need every advantage you can get when trying something new.

5. Take It Slow.

I have been bothering my mother about trying new things for a while. I realized that I was taking for granted the amount of practice that I have at it. That I have spent years diving into new circumstances. By doing so I have forgotten to trust the process. I have forgotten that when I first started trying new things I was very much a turtle in the shell, always retreating back. Just over time the shell has cracked some and shrunk in size.

So when the sun was not out and we met at the beach we were at a bit of a loss. We sat at the lunch table and started talking about what to do. We saw the perfect situation for everyday adventure. And adventure we did. But we took it one step at a time. And now we have a few great stories to tell, which is part of the goal.


So Happy Mother’s Day, Mom. Thank you for continuing to teach me lessons. I am proud of the way you approached yesterday. It was nice to see you smile like that. I hope you enjoy the goofy picture of all of us I posted. None of us look good.

So, what did you do with your mothers yesterday? Did you try something new or something tried and true? Let me know! I’d love to hear from you!

More soon.

John Latona Jr., The Boy with the Bear.


How the Six Steps in The Miracle Morning Fuel My Everday Adventures

I recommend Hal Elrod’s The Miracle Morning (TMM), flat out. I took a chance on this book, because mornings were always something that I dreaded. My sleep habits were never something that I was particularly proud of. So I pushed aside my feelings about the fluffy title and went on the adventure. The six habits outlined in TMM have changed the way I approach waking up and have become an important part of making my day to day life better.

I have always been surrounded by over sleeping. My mother worked nights. Most of what I saw of her was the steady up and down of her breath in the sheets. My father is a larger man who often spends his time after work on the couch with his head raised to the sky filling the room with an orchestra of snores. For me, it was just natural to view oversleeping as the norm.

When I turned 28 I started to realize that this was not sustainable. My productivity drops significantly after 10pm and my energy level the next day suffers because of it. Then I read TMM.


Yo Pal Hal, as he is called, researched the most influential people of our time and determined the six most commonly discussed habits they practice. Then he did them all. I have found that each of the six “Life S.A.V.E.R.S.” fuels my everyday adventures in different ways.

The Life S.A.V.E.R.S.


The first S stands for silence. I wake up and perform 15 minutes of purposeful silence daily. For me, it comes in the form of meditation. By using various apps (My Affirmations, Headspace, and Black Lotus) I have started to hone the art of meditating. What I love the most about this practice is the removal of weight from my spirit after I have finished. I find that the fears and resistances I feel are least apparent after I have finished a mediation. I feel an openness in my heart that gives me a new perspective on many of the imbalances in my life and more courage to tackle them.


I wish affirmations were last on this list because it has been the most important for me. If you do not know, affirmations are the idea of reframing your story and telling yourself the new narrative. The theory behind it is that if you tell yourself something is true, the energy you create helps to bring it to truth. I can’t recommend them enough. I have used this habit to effectively alter my eating and workout habits, increase my confidence, improve my positive attitude and all around change my outlook on life. By focusing on creating a positive image of myself, I have rewritten the former narrative where I was an undisciplined person who thought he was fat and lazy. I now, honestly, have the most confidence and joy I ever have. This confidence in myself fuels the courage I need on the daily as an everyday adventurer. Without courage, trying new things is far too daunting.


The idea behind visualization is that you visualize all the sensory imagery involved in completing a certain goals. In these visions you see yourself completing them and enjoying the process that got you there. You start to see all the ways it is possible and the goal is more likely to come to fruition. For me this is the most difficult of the S.A.V.E.R.S.. But I still use it relatively effectively. Part of my struggle is that I do not have the most clear goals. So instead, I use my visualization time to go over my life plan. If you haven’t made a life plan, I suggest you read this post by Michael Hyatt, who is a fantastic leadership coach. By visualizing the steps that I have outlined in my Life Plan my visualization period reminds me of my priorities. And as I said last time, prioritizing is one of the most important steps in making sure you do what you say you want. By visualizing my Life Plan daily I have built in time to remind me what is important in my life right now and where I want to be. This has been invaluable in keeping me on track.


This one is self explanatory in a lot of ways. For me the benefits have included weight loss, more energy, increased confidence, more positivity. In addition to that a lot of my hobbies and preferred travel destinations involve a lot of physical activity. By exercising daily I have noticed a huge increase in physical strength (who would have thought). This strength will directly translate to hiking, kayaking and any other of my less day to day adventures that I have planned. Does exercising suck, sometimes. But when you find an exercise you enjoy, the work becomes more bearable and the benefits outweigh any of the detriments. I promise.


I was practicing this one before I read TMM. I love reading, specifically nonfiction because it opens my mind to new ideas. I have tried new things (like TMM) almost exclusively because I read about them. Reading keeps my “Adventures To Try List” ever expanding. By reading daily, not only do I have more ideas of things to do, I gain new insights into ways I can view life. It expands my perspective in ways that only travel or trauma can best. By reading daily (nearly constantly) I have received comments from friends saying I am noticeably more: open, wise, thoughtful, understanding, empathetic, honest, and loving. I credit expanding my reading material for that.


Scribing a.k.a journaling is the concept of introspectively writing in some format for self reflection. Admittedly, I bend the rules on this one a bit. I accept this, because I use my scribing time to write for the blog and for other non-blog related writings. I scribe to foster the writing habit I have created. Writing has been a instrumental habit for reflection and affirming that I can have discipline on the day to day. This discipline bleeds over into my working out, eating habits, and scheduling process. By remaining disciplined in one aspect of my life it has allowed me to be consistent in others. This consistency is how I frequently find myself scheduling new adventures into my life.

So that’s it. These are the six ways The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod influence the way I create everyday adventures. Do you practice any of these habits? What result have you seen? Or do you disagree? 

More soon.

John Latona Jr., The Boy with the Bear.

3 Suggestions to Finding Day to Day Adventure

People do not like to be bored. Yet far too often we spend our free time doing the same things we always do. Recently I spent an entire day by myself. My phone was off, I packed lunch and some snacks and drove out to a reservoir at a nearby park. There I sat by a fountain, constantly getting hit by the spray I just sat there writing. It was great. I felt refreshed and clean by the end of the day.

Finding time like this is difficult. I am a freelancer. Admittedly, I have more flexibility than the average person. However, I am never at a lack for important things to fill my calendar. Work demands, family responsibilities, bills and  errands pepper my calendar always. Despite that, I’m here to suggest three actions you can take today that are highly effective at increasing the time I have available for the things that provide relief from boredom and allow me to fill my life with day-to-day adventures. They are:

1. Ride the Wave of Motivation:

A few weeks back I was discussing with my friend that I wanted to take a topography and map reading course. I am notoriously bad at navigating and I am tired of getting lost on trails. I got home that day and sat on my computer and remembered that conversation. So I found myself on REI.com checking their schedule of courses.I signed up on the spot.

Had I not done that the odds of me signing up would have dropped significantly. If you want to try new things you need to ride the wave of motivation as they come. Because the new does not like to come to fruition. Your lizard brain wants to keep you on the couch or at your computer doing nothing out of the ordinary. It wants your to be comfortable.

Use the motivation when it come and act on it and make sure you:

2. Schedule it:

Put it on your calendar. It is proven that you are more likely to do something that is on your calendar. By keeping things open-ended you give the universe thousands of opportunities to get in the way. By scheduling it you have created a commitment to yourself, to a teachers or class, to your wallet (if the event costs), or perhaps to friends or colleagues. You have incentive to follow through.

Scheduling it creates accountability and allows you to say, “Sorry I have a commitment,” if something tries to take that time slot. Of all of the habits I am proud to have fostered, this one is the most effective for my productivity. By scheduling almost everything I have been able to hold myself accountable in a way that I never have before and those grand workout plans and classes that I have always wanted to take actually find their way into my life.

This is all because I have been able to:

3. Prioritize them:

You get home from work. You make dinner and you eat. Then you sit down at the computer or television and watch hours of YouTube videos and baking shows. I recently asked my father why he does not draw anymore. His answer? I don’t have time. Shenanigans. I told him to find time. He scoffed at me asking, “Where am I supposed to find time?”

What I was too afraid to say was, “How about during the 4 hours of TV you watch every night after work?”

Everyone has the same amount of time in a day. What do you want to spend your time doing? You can spend four hours watching TV. That is fine, but do not complain that you do not have time to write or draw or run or garden. You do, you just chose to do something else instead. What your prioritize is your own choice. I respect whatever priorities you have selected.

I challenge you to take some of that time you spend on TV or searching the internet and read or write or go for a walk. You may discover that you like the way you feel more when you get your mind and body moving. Or sign up for that course you’ve always been interested in and put it in your calendar. It may provide the inspiration you need to get your life moving toward the adventure you crave.

So do you practice any of these three actions already? Or better yet, do you have one I didn’t mention? Let’s compare.

More soon.

John Latona Jr., The Boy with the Bear

Everyday Adventurer, A Mindset

Years back I was constantly struggling to find adventure. I had recently gotten back from a seven week stint in Vermont. During that time I was camping in the back country mostly in Mount Elmore State Park. I would spend a forty hour work week maintaining the various hiking trails in the park.

There, my coworkers and I spent our free time chasing raccoons, making fires, cooking and eating meals together, connecting with one another. At the end of the seven weeks we said goodbye and a fellow camper and I set off on a road trip eager to avoid the boring life waiting for us at home. Niagara Falls, Toronto, Montreal, Massachusetts, Hunter Mountain and then finally back home. When I got home, I could not find myself stimulated in any way.


Shortly after, I started dating this woman. What is important about her is not that we dated or that we have since broken up. What is important is a gift she gave me once. For Christmas I received something called, “John’s Adventure Book.” The whole idea behind the gift was to remind me that, life is made up of many adventures. Not just the ones that take you to the mountains, the woods, or across the sea. She saw my struggle and gave me permission to see everyday as an adventure.

Everyday can’t be wonderful. Not everyday can strike awe into your heart and change the way you perceive the world. If that was the case, the extraordinary would quickly become ordinary, and more quickly–boring. If there is something that adventure is not, it’s not boring. Boring is the opposite of happiness. Because if you are bored you are not engaged. If you are bored. You are not adventuring enough.

Everyday adventure is simple. Adventure is doing something new. Adventure is trying a new restaurant with friends. Adventure is asking that person out. Adventuring is taking a walk around a new part of the neighborhood. There are an infinite number of adventures waiting within ten minutes of you. My everyday adventure has recently included getting involved in obstacle course races, and performing at an open mic.

What have you done recently that was different and spooky? Maybe you took a dance class. Perhaps you tried a new recipe. Or you read a book by a new author. This is all part of your everyday adventure. Over time these little choices add up to create memories that last, sometimes surprisingly long.

I remember one specific summer night. My friends and I got together to cook s’mores. We do this all the time. Why is this memory special? Because we did something adventurous. Instead of buying Hershey’s Chocolate bar, we bought Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups, Cadbury Fruit and Nuts, Ghirardelli Dark Chocolate. We had the idea to make gourmet s’mores. We never did it again, but we had a great adventure while we did. Seems silly? I disagree.


I disagree because we only have so many pages in the Adventure Book called long term memory. My book consists of hiking to a secluded waterfall in Ghana, putting my feet in the Colorado River in the Grand Canyon, climbing hills in search of fossils by my grandfather and, of course, making gourmet s’mores. Undoubtedly the first few are adventurous, so why not the last? People explore to make memories and to experience things. If its memory lasted, is it not an adventure?

I try my best to fill my Adventure Book with tales of the everyday adventure. Tales of the day to day with flare. Who knows which of these little extravaganzas will turn into the thing I remember years from now. I guarantee I do not remember every tiny detail about my time in Ghana or every moment at the Grand Canyon. But I remember gourmet s’mores. 

So tell me, what small adventures have you made recently?

More Soon.

John Latona Jr., The Boy with the Bear

An Introduction: The Boy with the Bear

So this is post zero. The Boy with the Bear is a blog about my relationship to adventure. On this blog I will discuss my own personal struggles and successes in living a life of adventure. My primary goal will be to open the conversation with anyone who has ever dealt with the calling to do or see more. Let’s discuss how we can help each other overcome the boredom and mental clutter that comes with the everyday. Maybe we can take the leap together.



Prior to this I had been using this forum to create my writing habit. Success. Looking back that was and is now part of my day to day adventure. Now, I can start talking more consistently about a single topic. The fear of the calling was the topic of a few posts during my 31 Day writing challenge. It is clearly important to me. I have since refined it to this concept of the everyday adventurer.

It is my hope that throughout the life of this blog I will write about:

  • Things I want to do.
  • Why I haven’t done them.
  • What it takes to do new things.
  • What it felt like after I pushed through the fear and actually did them.

Currently I am fighting through the fear of posting this on a more public forum than I already have. I know I need to put myself out there, but being that vulnerable is spooky. But if you are reading this, that means that I pushed through that problem and am most likely pleased.


I am excited to go on this journey together, whoever you are! Now tell me, what have you always wanted to do, but have never had the courage?

More soon.

John Latona Jr., The Boy with the Bear