Last week I talked about The Resistance. I went into the most basic things you need to do to outsmart him. But all I gave you was a list of things that are easier said than done. Though The Resistance is easy to beat in theory. The practice is much more difficult.
Back in 2014 I was in college for the second time. I was in the process of trying to decide what I wanted to do. I was in self imposed exile from most of my friends since everyone else seemed to have everything figured out.
Instead of working on myself, I distracted myself with alcohol, sports and new friends. These new friends were less than good influences. I don’t remember after a party waking up in the hospital, stitches in my ear and none of my new friends around. That is when I new something had to change.So I decided to take control and this is how I did it:
1. Acknowledge The Resistance.
The Resistance is your enemy. You must not let him take control. But you must remember that he is part of you too. Change your tactic and approach him with gratitude and thank him for what he is trying to do for you.
In her book, Big Magic, Elizabeth Gilbert tells her fear, that he can come for the ride, but he can never, ever drive. Set the ground rules and tell him (and yourself) that you are not going to listen. You are in control.
You’ll be surprised how much better you’ll feel.
2. Figure Out What It Wants You To Avoid.
Once you tell The Resistance what the rules are, you need to reflect on what he was saying. What he tells you not to do, is very often what you need to do.Take time.
Dedicated time, and see what he wants you to not do. And come up with a plan to make that exact thing happen. The Resistance wants to limit your dream with thoughts of self doubt and images of failure. But those are just illusions.
3. Implement That Plan.
Start. Excuse me while I become a broken record. Start. Start. Start. This is the absolute best way to take control of The Resistance. By starting you limit his capabilities drastically.
Start small. One day at a time, everyday. Implement a simple change and as your confidence grows let the steps grow in size with it. Start building the habit. That is how you start to take control.
4. Power Through The Bad Days
Continuing can be just as hard. Sometimes harder. You will have bad days. Days where you fall in the mud or you get the flu. On those days you will find solace in doing the very things you are trying to change. In the things that used to make you comfortable.
That. Is. Ok. For one day. Pick up where you left off the next day. Don’t stress yourself by trying to catch up. Just get back to your daily goal and power through everyday onward. Eventually you’ll find that your day is not complete until you do that thing. It is now part of you. Congratulations.
5. Shun Perfection and Finish It.
And finally there will come a time to finish. Finishing is putting your work in public. Sending the bird out of its nest to watch it to change the world. It might be loved. It might Be hated. You can’t control that. You can only control creating. So finish and create again.
You may struggle with this and see all the flaws in your work. Nothing is perfect. Every piece of art, every business venture or new program is imperfect. That is what makes creation beautiful. The illusion of perfect, formed by mistakes. Seek excellence and deliver to the world. And remember, finishing means, this one time, you overcame The Resistance.
And that’s it. That’s the more comprehensive way I like to take down The Resistance. It’s never easy to implement these steps. But I did it. So can you. And once you do, you get to do something fun. You get to ask yourself, what’s next?
How do you feel about these five steps? Am I crazy or did you find something else that works better? I would love to hear from you in the comment section below and if you like what you are reading I encourage you to follow me. I will be posting 2-3 times a weeks and next post will be on Wednesday 5/23 . So thank you for your time! Go find adventure today!
John Latona Jr., The Boy with the Bear.